Imagine a wedding ceremony that is truly yours — no officiant, no witnesses, just you and your partner in a moment of untainted and genuine connection. This unique experience is possible through a process known as self-solemnization.
Self-solemnization is the act of self-uniting, or performing your own wedding ceremony, leaving behind any interference from a religious or governmental third-party figure. Under this concept, you and your partner are left with the freedom to perform your own marital ceremony in a way that is deeply reflective of your relationship, free from external influences.
While the idea of self-solemnization is liberating, it’s important to be aware of certain legal caveats regarding this process. The primary factor to consider is location, as self-solemnization is only legally recognized in specific states and jurisdictions.
The following states also permit self-solemnization, though each has its own set of rules and regulations:
https://www.legis.state.pa.us/cfdocs/legis/LI/consCheck.cfm?txtType=HTM&ttl=23&div=0&chpt=15
https://www.maine.gov/portal/residents/marriage.html
https://docs.legis.wisconsin.gov/statutes/statutes/765/16
https://www.leg.state.nv.us/nrs/nrs-122.html
To begin planning your self-uniting ceremony, first, verify the legal requirements in your chosen location. A quick call to the County Clerk’s office will clarify any jurisdiction-specific regulations. Confirming these rules and regulations directly from the source before your wedding day is a great way to bypass any misunderstanding that could hinder the legality of your marriage. Once you have ensured compliance with local laws, you can focus on crafting a ceremony that is uniquely yours.
Consider the elements you wish to include in your ceremony: personalized vows, meaningful readings, music, or even symbolic rituals. Whether you choose to invite family or keep the moment entirely private, the day should reflect your shared values and vision.
If you’re traveling to your ceremony destination, plan ahead to ensure you have everything you need, from travel accommodations to wedding attire. Don’t forget to apply for your marriage license within the appropriate time frame — generally no more than 90 days before your ceremony, and no less than one week in advance.
If your chosen location does not permit self-solemnization, consider alternative options that still honor the spirit of your commitment. Many couples opt for a legal ceremony at home, followed by a symbolic or commitment ceremony in their dream destination. This allows you to experience the joy and intimacy of your wedding day without having to worry about various legal constraints.
A commitment ceremony can include all the elements of a traditional wedding, minus the legal formalities. This option provides flexibility — you can choose to complete the legal aspect before, after, or not at all, depending on your preferences. There is an ever-growing list of reasons why one may want to skip the legal formalities surrounding marriage, but still want to honor and celebrate their love accordingly – and that’s okay.
Self-solemnization is often associated with the freedom of eloing, but it’s not a requirement. You can choose to self-marry in a traditional wedding setting or during a private elopement — the decision is entirely yours.
The beauty of modern marriage lies in the freedom to design a ceremony that truly represents your partnership. While we’ve come a long way in marriage equality, there is still progress to be made. By supporting the right to choose how we define our marital experiences, you’re opening the doorway for positive changes to continually unfold.
As a dedicated Destination Wedding & Elopement Photographer, I’m here to guide you through the intricacies of planning your self-uniting ceremony. The process can feel overwhelming, but with the right support and detailed planning, we can bring your vision to life.
If you’re ready to start this journey together, fill out this form to schedule a consultation. Let’s explore your story and craft a day that you’ll cherish forever.
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